COVID-19 has affected nearly everyone around the WORLD. If you aren’t infected by it or recovering from it, your lifestyle has been drastically altered because of it. I know mine has. This pandemic had increased my anxiety to a point where I felt like I was walking around in a haze with a brick on my chest. The moment I decided finances be damned because me and my sobriety are worth more than a regular paycheck was the moment I was able to take charge and start being me again. Sure, it’s just me in my apartment with my cats doing some creative accounting, reading, attending virtual all day AA speaker marathons (I’ll have info on that below) and following the CDC guidelines in order to hopefully slow this virus down. But when I think of how that brick felt on my chest felt, do I need anything more than that right now? I’m going to answer that with a vehement Hell no! Like I’ve mentioned before and have heard many time over from others:
You must take care of yourself first before you are able to care for anyone else.
One other thing I wanted to mention to those of you quarantined with your partners: take advantage of this time. Sure, you’re going to get on each other’s nerves from time-to-time, but doesn’t that happen when the world is operating “normally”? Think outside of the box. Here are a few ideas that I’ve used during past relationships:
- Go for a picnic. We’re all encouraged to get outside right now (and socially distance ourselves, of course), so go visit a park with a lake. Take a picnic basket, camping chairs or blanket, a couple of books or camera or whatever you’d like and just enjoy the amazing nature that is happening outside. It’s Springtime in the States, so birds are singing, trees and flowers are budding and while the humans are quarantined, the world outside is becoming more alive!
- Take any ol’ game (poker, Twister, Battleship, Monopoly) and give them the adult twist by adding “strip” to the beginning. Change the rules. Make your own games.
- Write notes to each other. If you’re the early riser and get the coffee going, leave a post-it note on the coffee maker for your partner to see when they get their morning cup ‘o joe to start their day off on a positive note. I was going to say “start their day off ‘right'”, but there’s no “right” or “wrong” way to start a day, in my opinion. Leave a note under their pillow before you go to bed. If you’re like me and can’t keep a secret to save your life, then when you two go to bed, you’ll be all smiles and giggles waiting for them to crawl in next to you and find what you’ve left.
- If you need some personal space, communicate that to each other. You’re only hurting each other if you’re sitting there seething about your partner being around “all the time”. Communicate that, set either time boundaries or household room boundaries and quarantine yourself from each other for a minute and respect this time/space. It’s not like you or your partner are really “going” anywhere. Also, if you’re like me and you’re the one who requested the space, you’re going to manage to do this for five minutes before giving in and realizing how much you enjoy having that other person around not only to talk to, but just be with.
Enjoy this time and enjoy each other.
Back to sobriety… Check out this link (www.recoverytapers.com) for a whole slew of free, online speakers. All of the zoom meeting info I’ll post in pics below may also be found there. Also, all the zoom meetings I’m posting will be recorded and available at the link above for free. Miss a speaker you’d like to hear? It will be available.
This is an amazing time for people in recovery.
Be safe. Be kind. Be you. Sending loads of love and good vibes around the world! ❤